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| To let go isn’t to forget, not to think about, or ignore. It doesn’t
leave feelings of anger, jealousy, or regret. Letting go isn’t about winning or losing. It’s not about pride and it’s not about how you appear, and it’s not obsessing or dwelling on the past. Letting go isn’t blocking memories or thinking sad thoughts, and it doesn’t leave emptiness, hurt, or sadness. It’s not about giving in or giving up. Letting go isn’t about loss and it’s not about defeat. To let go is to cherish the memories, but to overcome and move on. It is having an open mind and confidence in the future. Letting go is learning and experiencing and growing. To let go is to be thankful for the experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and made you grow. It’s about all that you have, all that you had, and all that you will soon gain. Letting go is having the courage to accept change, and the strength to keep moving. Letting go is growing up. It is realizing that the heart can sometimes be the most potent remedy. To let go is to open a door, and to clear a path and set yourself free. unattributed |
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| “We hold fast by letting go.” Letting go of our attempts
to control things, our attempts to maintain control over every aspect of our life. We’ve all heard the saying about if we love something, we should let it go, and then we’ll know whether it “belongs” to us when we see whether it comes back to us. So much of our discontent and our dissatisfaction comes from our unwillingness to let go of trying to control things and trying to cause just the results that we think should occur. tom walsh |
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| Healthy mysticism praises acts of letting go, of being emptied, of getting
in touch with the space inside and expanding this until it merges with the space outside. Space meeting space; empty pouring into empty. Births happen from that encounter with emptiness, nothingness. . . . Let us not fight emptiness and nothingness, but allow it to penetrate us even as we penetrate it. |
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with which to study. One gives away one’s heart in love and yet has more heart to give away. One perishes out of pity for a suffering world, and is stronger therefore. So, too, it is possible at one and the same time to hold on to life and let go. |
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| In the end these things matter most:
How well did you love? How fully did you love? How deeply did you learn to let go? |
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| We need in love to practice only this: letting each other go.
For holding on comes easily-we do not need to learn it. |
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| Consider the trees which allow the birds to perch and fly away without either
inviting them to stay or desiring them never to depart. If your heart can be like this, you will be near to the way. Zen Buddhist teaching |
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| The clouds above us come together and disperse;
The breeze in the courtyard departs and returns. Life is like that, so why not relax? Who can keep us from celebrating? |
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| The greatest thing is, at any moment, to be willing
to give up who we are in order to become all that we can be. Max De Pree |
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in the pacing of my life. I open my heart to God’s timing. I release my deadlines, agendas, and stridency to the gentle yet often swift pacing of God. As I open my heart to God’s unfoldings, my heart attains peace. As I relax into God’s timing, my heart contains comfort. As I allow God to set the tone and schedule of my days, I find myself in the right time and place, open and available to God’s opportunities. |
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| We believe that it is difficult to let go, but in truth, it is much more difficult
and painful to hold and protect. Reflect upon anything in your life that you grasp hold of-an opinion, a historical resentment, an ambition, or an unfulfilled fantasy. Sense the tightness, fear, and defensiveness that surrounds the grasping. It is a painful, anxious experience of unhappiness. We do not let go in order to make ourselves impoverished or bereft. We let go in order to discover happiness and peace. |
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| The only things we can keep are the things we freely give to God.
What we try to keep for ourselves is just what we are sure to lose. C.S. Lewis |
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| Once we see that everything is impermanent and ungraspable
and that we create a huge amount of suffering if we are attached to things staying the same, we realize that relaxing and letting go is a wiser way to live. Letting go does not mean not caring about things. It means caring about them in a flexible and wise way. Jack Kornfield |
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| On Letting Go
author unknown To “let go” does not mean to stop caring. It means I can’t do it for someone else. To “let go” is not to cut myself off. It’s the realization that I can’t control another. To “let go” is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands. To “let go” is not to try to change or blame another. It’s to make the most of myself. To “let go” is not to care for, but to care about. To “let go” is not to fix, but to be supportive. To “let go” is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being. To “let go” is not to be in the middle, arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies. To “let go” is not to deny, but to accept. To “let go” is not to nag, scold, or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them. To “let go” is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it. To “let go” is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future. To “let go” is to fear less and to love more. |
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| Articles and book excerpts on letting go:
Gratitude Is Larger Than Life Melody Beattie Let the Past Go Ella Wheeler Wilcox Start over Again, and Do It Right Elaine St James The Gerbil Story Melody Beattie How to Hold a Grudge tom walsh Letting Go vs. Giving Up Louise Morganti Kaelin Perfectionism Is Too Much! Rhoberta Shaler Releasing the Past Jeff Keller Thoughts on the Serenity Prayer Ray Whiting Sometimes Undoing and Forgetting Are Best Asoka Selvarajah Thinking Straight in a Crooked World Sheryl Ellis
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| You don’t realize that if you stop looking backwards craving the love and
acceptance which you didn’t receive from your parents, then you might open your eyes to what is available for you now. But you won’t let go. If only you could see that looking back into an incomplete and imperfect past, with regret, blame, guilt or resentment is keeping you from the treasures that await you here now. The past has gone. You cannot rectify something that is no longer with you. |
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